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Since arriving in Brussels, I have noticed that the Europeans like their risque advertisements.  It is not uncommon to be sitting in a bus stop, glance up, and see a large photo ad of a man in his skivvies modeling a cell phone or bottled water.  Nudity is just not weird here (at least in the minds of Europeans).  A girl in one of my classes offered me her gossip mag once she was finished with it, and I excitedly accepted.  As I flipped through the pages, I noticed that this little gem was not quite the same as my American favorite, People - and not just because it was in French.  While this magazine featured a similar section of celebrity photos, the actual content was very foreign to me.  There were photographs of topless women that would never have made it on to American newsstands.  This cultural discrepancy has inspired me to research the advertising gap between the US and Europe for an assignment in my Intercultural Communication class.  I have already found some really interesting websites that highlight this stark contrast, including AdsOfTheWorld.com.

As I write this entry, I can't help but be distracted from my thoughts by the noisy street below our apartment.  There is always an ample amount of honking going on.  The drivers here are really rather aggressive.  More than once, when I've been Skyping with someone back home, they overhear a car engine as it roars through the streets and ask, "What is that???"  But it's just the sound of European road rage.  No big deal.  People like to stop very suddenly, and accelerate just as quickly, and scrape past one another with tricky maneuvers that would make me cringe were I driving on the road with them.  They truly love zipping about in their little green cars.

Overall, this week has been pretty uneventful and low key.  I think that I am finally getting used to the work and class schedule.  I've definitely gotten the whole bus thing down, so I can just tune into my iPod on the way to work and not really pay attention.  I haven't quite gotten used to the abrupt stops and holding my balance while standing on the bus, but I somehow feel that my clumsiness will prevent me from ever mastering such tricks.


Last night at our weekly Furman meeting, we had a guest speaker.  His name is Jonathan Addleton, and he is the new Ambassador to Mongolia.  He has worked in Brussels for the past few years, focusing on aid and development in the EU, and he has worked in a number of different places including Cambodia, Yemen, and Jordan just to name a few.  One of the points that he made that really struck me in light of our trip to Ypres was that the devastation of the world wars is apparent as you travel through Europe.  While I have learned about these wars in history, it is quite another thing to actually encounter these "foreign" territories and witness the tension that still lingers below the surface.
 
Cultural Note: The principle of “ladies first” does not apply in Brussels.
When waiting for the bus, gentlemen have no qualms about pushing in front of you and/or taking a seat from you.  And when people walk down the street, they make their paths and they stick to it. If you happen to be in the way, you move to the side or you get hit.

But aside from the cultural discrepancies, I had a revelation today during my
Communication Theories class at Vesalius. During our class break (which is much needed since our class is 3 hours long), I struck up a conversation with a Belgian girl who studied at American University in Washington DC for 6 months last year. I asked her about her experience, and she went on to tell me that it was wonderful and she really enjoyed her time in the city. She then told me that she met her boyfriend there. He’s a Texan, and she has been in a long distance relationship with him for a few months now. We commiserated about communication issues and other complications, and another Belgian girl chimed in. Her boyfriend (or maybe fiancée because she had a huge diamond on her left ring finger?) is doing business in China until December. He has only been gone for about two weeks, but already she is struggling with the time difference and the loneliness. While my situation did not seem quite as dramatic as hers (she had an intense photo of her and her boy embracing on the background of her phone), it was interesting to hear her take on the situation. This insignificant little conversation reminded me that, beyond the cultural and political differences, we all have feelings in common. We all have to deal with relationships and love and emotions. This encouraged me to look beyond my recent frustrations and seek human connections without cultural bias.


 
Waiting for the bus this morning, I turned on my iPod and mentally prepared myself for the day (determined that this time, I would actually notice the bus coming and flag it down before it pulled away as happened on Wednesday morning). The first song that came up was the title track from Needtobreathe's new album "The Outsiders." I smiled to myself as I listened to the lyrics, realizing that some of the concepts were actually quite appropriate for my current situation over here in Brussels:

"On the outside,
You’re free to roam
On the outside
We found it home
On the outside
There’s more to see"

I am, without a doubt, an outsider over here. No matter how I try to fit in, I still stand out. But, as I approach the three week mark of my stay in Brussels, I realize that it's okay. That's not to say that I will not try to adapt to my surroundings and respect this astounding and different culture, but I will be proud of who I am and where I come from. I may come from the outside, but I will explore and learn about and observe this new place. Not only am I learning more about the culture over here, but I am also delving deeper into the values of my American culture as the glaring differences rise to the surface. While my culture is different and doesn't quite fit into the puzzle of life over here, I won't be ashamed of it. When I first arrived, I was embarrassed that little behaviors like smiling at strangers and not knowing how to open the bus door left the natives scowling at my stupid "American" behavior. But now, I just laugh it off and know that I'm learning. I don't know that this is the specific message that Needtobreathe was going for, but I took pieces of it and made it my own.

Beyond this minor revelation, I had an interesting transit to work. Upon hopping on the tram and traveling just one stop in the direction toward work, the driver announced something in French. Then, all of the passengers began to get off the train. I hadn't the slightest idea what was going on, so, like a little lost lamb, I followed the herd of people to a nearby tram. The only problem was, I did not want to board a tram and end up in the middle of a corn field or Lord knows where. And then it began to rain. It was actually more comical than anything. I considered phoning my Furman professor for advice, but I decided to give into adventure and wing it. I approached the traffic director gentleman and inquired, "Parlez vous anglais?" Much to my relief, he replied, "Yes, I do." He then told me that I had to take the tram that everyone herded to for two stops, and then pick up the tram that would take me to work. Thank goodness. I did as he said and made it to the proper stop where I stood in a huge pack of Europeans in the chilly rain for a few moments before my saving grace of a tram finally arrived. I then resumed my "chill state" and settled into a tram swet where I soon noticed some of my IDF comrades were on the very same tram, and we struck up polite conversation about the craziness of the situation. Sweet victory. So the moral of this little tale is this: public transportation is a crazy beast. You never know where you might end up (besides in the lap of the smelly man beside you as the bus/tram/metro comes to a screeching halt without warning). Just go with it.

Today at work, I am compiling information for the meeting at Parliament on Monday. It has been a very informative week here so far, and I am excited to delve into these exciting projects. I am also looking forward to regrouping this weekend and curling up with my newly fixed Macbook.

On a side note, I got electrocuted yesterday when trying to plug in my Macbook to the adapter that was already in the outlet. Not a good decision, I concluded as the heat of the shock burned through my fingertips. You live and you learn.